Mistakes Mothers Might Make That Affect Their Daughters’ Fertility (Part One)
Many times, mothers overlook important health signs in their daughters’ lives—either due to a lack of knowledge, being too busy, or mistakenly believing that “everything will get better with time.” However, there are matters that should not be ignored, as they directly impact fertility and reproductive health, and may cause serious issues if not addressed early.
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Delayed Puberty: When Should It Be a Cause for Concern?
One of the most commonly overlooked concerns is the delayed onset of menstruation in girls. Every mother should know that the maximum normal age for the first menstrual period is 16 years. If a girl reaches this age without getting her period, it is critical not to delay or wait—it’s time to see a doctor immediately to determine the cause.
At this stage, a key question arises:
Has menstruation developed in the first place?
And if it has, is the blood exiting the body naturally? Or is it being formed but not released?
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Cryptomenorrhea: A Rare but Serious Condition
Sometimes, menstruation is happening inside the uterus, but the blood is not exiting the body due to a rare condition called cryptomenorrhea, or “hidden menstruation.” In this case, the hymen is completely sealed, unlike the natural state in which it should have a small opening that allows menstrual blood to exit.
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When the hymen is completely closed, the blood accumulates in the vagina without the mother or daughter noticing. Then, with each cycle, more blood builds up: first in the vagina, then in the cervix, and eventually in the uterine cavity.
Over time, the accumulation becomes so significant that the uterus can enlarge to a size comparable to pregnancy!
At this point, a mother might notice her daughter’s abdomen growing, but since the girl has never had her period, the mother assumes it’s just weight gain and dismisses it.
In some areas where awareness is low, people might even imagine worse scenarios, which can cause tremendous psychological pressure on the girl and her family. This is why it’s absolutely vital to address such concerns medically before jumping to any conclusions.
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The Importance of Awareness and Communication with Your Daughter
Sometimes, a girl experiences severe monthly cramps but doesn’t dare to talk to her mother, fearing blame or being accused of exaggerating.
This is where the mother’s role comes in: to be a safe space, to initiate the conversation, to listen without judgment, and to build trust.
Say to her:
“I’m here to listen to you, to understand you, and God gave you to me so I could be with you through every step.”
Being a supportive and understanding mother is a fundamental part of protecting your daughter’s physical and emotional health.
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Pay Attention to Your Daughter’s Abdomen… Even If She’s Getting Her Period
In other cases, menstruation may begin normally, but the mother notices her daughter’s abdomen is growing. She might assume it’s from overeating or weight gain. But again, attention is needed.
This could be due to ovarian cysts or even a uterine fibroid (God forbid), both of which can cause abdominal bloating.
The only way to verify this is through a simple ultrasound scan that takes less than five minutes—but brings great peace of mind and can uncover the truth.
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Be the Reason Another Mother Is Informed
If you found this information helpful, don’t keep it to yourself.
Like the video or article, and share it with your mother or other moms you know—every mother deserves to know these crucial details that could protect her daughter’s fertility or even save her life.
And if you’re a mother yourself, don’t wait until things become complicated. Share this knowledge with others.
Awareness is the first step toward prevention, and a single word from you could change another girl’s life.
