Healing from Vaginismus After Divorce… A Journey to a Happy Ending
Peace be upon you,
In September 2017, a beautiful white wedding car pulled up in front of one of the most elegant halls in Upper Egypt. It was the bride and groom’s big night—everyone around was celebrating, smiling, and full of joy. But deep inside, the bride wasn’t as happy as she seemed. Her mind was racing with thoughts and fears about what came next.
This young woman was admired by everyone—not just for her looks, but for her intelligence, manners, and kindness. People used to say she was a role model. But as she got into the car in her wedding dress, her heart was full of anxiety about the unknown. When the wedding was over and they began their life together, she found herself paralyzed by fear at the idea of intimacy.
Days passed… then weeks… then months. Still, nothing changed. The couple began visiting doctors. Some told her that nothing was medically wrong and that her hesitation was just “nerves” or “drama.” Eventually, her husband took the doctors’ words literally and told her family, “Your daughter is just being difficult.”
From there, the situation got worse. Family members, unsure what to believe, tried to “talk sense” into her. When that didn’t work, they turned to religious figures. One sheikh believed she was suffering from “spiritual blockages” or “black magic” and brought in others to perform “ruqyah” sessions. Theories came up about jinn and spiritual attachments—things that only added to her fear and trauma.
The sessions were harsh. Every time she cried or trembled, they said, “That’s the jinn resisting.” They ignored her pain, telling her it wasn’t really hers. Sadly, this still happens in some communities today.
Eventually, her husband gave up. He wanted a family and children, but after nine months with no intimacy, he saw no path forward. He asked for a divorce.
But That Wasn’t the End… It Was a New Beginning
At just 19 years old, the young woman found herself divorced—but not broken. She decided to start over. And by God’s will, she met a completely different kind of man. He was kind, respectful, emotionally mature, and deeply supportive. They married, and their life together began—but so did the same old fear.
Month after month, the same struggle returned. Until one day, she came across a video—an educational video about vaginismus. For the first time, everything made sense.
She realized:
• Her problem wasn’t about being spoiled or dramatic.
• It wasn’t about lack of love for her husband.
• It wasn’t spiritual possession or magic.
• It was a real, diagnosable, and treatable condition.
She contacted the specialist behind the video and was finally given a proper diagnosis. A tailored treatment plan was created for her. And within just 14 days, she fully recovered.
Yes, after four years of confusion, pain, and emotional exhaustion—just 14 days of the right treatment changed everything.
She later sent this heartfelt message:
“To the most amazing, skilled, and kind Dr. Riham in the whole world—may God bless you and increase your knowledge. I’m sending you this message with joy: The relationship has finally succeeded, thanks to God and to you. I will be forever grateful to you, and I hope to visit you soon.”
This message wasn’t written out of obligation. No one told her to write it. It came from her heart—because she finally saw the light after years in the dark.
Why This Story Matters
Because so many girls like her suffer in silence.
Because people still believe myths about possession and black magic.
Because girls are still blamed for things they don’t understand themselves.
But with proper education, empathy, and professional guidance, recovery is not just possible—it’s quick, empowering, and life-changing.
To Everyone Reading This
• Vaginismus is not about weakness, disobedience, or spiritual curses.
• It is a treatable psychological and physical condition.
• And you are not alone.
Whether your struggle comes after marriage, after divorce, or years of trying—there is hope. There is healing. And your story can still have a happy ending, just like hers.
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