The Right Way to Examine Vaginismus and Intimacy Difficulties
One of the most common and important questions we get from women diagnosed with vaginismus is:
“How is the medical examination done? Is it painful? Should I be worried?”
These are completely natural and valid questions. In Dr Reham el-shall said: fact, your first experience with a medical exam can deeply affect how willing you are to continue your healing journey.
The Painful Truth: Previous Traumatic Experiences
Unfortunately, many women have had harmful, unprofessional, and even traumatic exam experiences.
Some doctors performed harsh internal exams without proper explanation or consent. And when the woman flinched in pain, they would say things like:
“If you can’t handle this, how will you handle intercourse?”
That kind of response is neither logical nor humane.
So, What Is the Right Way to Examine These Cases?
1. The exam is only done with full, informed consent.
The woman must clearly understand every step before it happens.
2. At any moment, if the patient asks to stop—the exam stops. Immediately.
Her comfort and safety always come first.
3. Not every case requires a manual or internal exam.
Some women are only observed externally. Others are examined verbally, or not examined at all—depending on their comfort and the severity of their condition.
4. The exam is always done scientifically, respectfully, and with the least amount of physical contact necessary.
No force. No violations. No crossing boundaries.
Every Case Is Unique
Just like no two fingerprints are alike, no two women experience vaginismus in the same way.
Some women have extreme anxiety about physical exams. One woman even reached the clinic door with her husband but froze in fear and left. Later, she contacted us through an online consultation, saying she felt safer that way.
Once she understood that the exam could be done gently, logically, and only with her full trust and consent—her entire perspective changed. She gave healing a chance. And with time, she started a beautiful journey toward full recovery.
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Where Can I Learn More About This?
We’ve created a full Home Healing Course for Vaginismus, designed to walk you through:
• How proper medical examinations are done.
• How to tell whether your doctor is helping—or harming—you.
• What kind of behavior and communication you should expect from medical professionals.
• How to protect yourself from unnecessary trauma and choose the right treatment path.
Because sadly, one wrong step can set you back years.
But one right step—just one—can open the door to peace, health, and emotional freedom.
Our Message to You
It’s okay to ask.
It’s okay to be scared.
And it’s more than okay to say “no” when something doesn’t feel right.
Your pain is not “normal.”
Your fear is not “silly.”
And your voice deserves to be heard.
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